Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Mentions, retweets, and links, Oh my! (when social media leaves you lonely)......

I'm a naturally social person. Going to group events usually energizes me. I enjoy talking with people and learning from them.

I'm not without social awkwardness at times, though. Just like everyone else, I act busy on my phone or get that cup of coffee I don't really need until I can find a friendly face to talk to.

Which leads me to how I've been feeling on Twitter lately. When I created an account over 5 years ago (wow!) it was only to see what this whole tweeting thing was all about. I followed a couple famous people. I was ecstatic when I got my first Direct Message from one of my favorite singing groups.
Then I started connecting with some of my blogging friends around the country. Through Twitter parties, DM's, and "Good Morning, friends" tweets, I met some of my closest online friends. This was a perfect social media tool for the outgoing person in me.

Then something changed. It was almost as if someone turned up the Twitter volume. My home stream started moving faster and faster. It was filled with more and more links and fewer personal interactions.
Suddenly I felt as if I was standing in the corner of a crowded party, yelling at the top of my lungs for someone to pay attention to me!

Here's a link to my blog post!!!!!!!!!
What are you having for dinner????!!!!!!!
Hope you are having a great weekend!!!!!!!

The louder and more often I "tweeted," the more lonely I felt as a thousand other tweets passed me by.

Then I heard a still, small voice.
I love you! Learn of Me! I am meek and lowly in heart and you will find rest for your soul (Matthew 11:28).

All the retweets in the world will never truly satisfy my heart's desire for acceptance. I already have it through Christ!
...to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved....

Instead of tweeting more and more loudly, I'm choosing to 
....Be still and Know that He is God....

When social media is constantly changing and evolving - post 3 times a day, post in the morning, auto-schedule your posts, always post live, I'm focusing on
...Give thanks to the God of heaven, for his steadfast love endures forever...

I still enjoy occasionally checking in on Twitter, but you won't find me glued to my home stream waiting for my next "mention". Instead I'm focusing my heart and my need for acceptance on the One who can fill that constant human need.

What about you? Have you been able to connect with any close friends through Twitter? Have you ever experienced loneliness in social media?? 

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This post is linked to The Better Mom and Gracelaced.


Wanda said...

I sort of reluctantly joined twitter a while back to see what all the talk was about as well. I can't say that I have really found my groove there yet. Like you it feels like throwing a small pebble in big old crowded lake. I love how you're choosing to focus on the acceptance of the One that matters most.

Rachel Erin said...

Totally agree, Wanda! Glad to know I'm not the only one! :) Have a great Tuesday!

The Domestic Fringe said...

I'm not a Twitter fan. In fact, a few years back, I had a growing Twitter base and then deleted my account. Then I caved to the social media pressure and opened one again. I still don't like it, but I keep it and once in a while I get on and try and find someone to talk to. Doesn't always work though.
~FringeGirl (thedomesticfringe.com)

Rachel Erin said...

Well....if I'm ever on, feel free to chat with me! :) We'll start our own Twitter party! :) Have a great afternoon!

Mrsteeh said...

I first joined twitter much like you simply to see what it was about...then to connect with family you lived distant...and now for blogging connections...I understand what you mean about the loss of a personal connection and how it can happen. Yet as I use it to connect for my blog I still try to maintain my personal relationship with family and friends as much as possible. Still in all things there must be moderation...I try not to become too absorbed.